Thrive Boldly: Oxytocin: The Power of Connection and Healing

Our three brains—head, heart, and stomach—are all interconnected, influencing how we think, feel, and nourish ourselves. The science of oxytocin, often called the "love hormone," plays a crucial role in synchronizing these three brain systems, fostering connection, empathy, and healing. When we experience bonding and nurturing, oxytocin is released, creating a sense of calm, trust, and well-being. But when disruptions occur in our oxytocin system, such as early life stress or emotional challenges, it can trigger fear, anxiety, or even conflict.

Fortunately, oxytocin is also one of the most repairable systems in our body, and we can actively nurture it through practices like mindful connection, emotional support, and—yes—nourishing food. When we engage in supportive relationships, touch, or simple acts of kindness, we activate our oxytocin system, helping to restore balance and promote healing in our three brains.

Here’s how you can begin to nurture your oxytocin system through your stomach brain with a nourishing recipe that aligns with the head and heart brains’ need for emotional support and bonding.

Oxytocin-Inspired Recipe: Comforting Cinnamon & Honey-Lavender Oatmeal

This recipe combines heart-warming, nourishing ingredients that promote comfort and connection, just what your brain, heart, and gut need to feel aligned and whole.

Ingredients:

• 1 cup rolled oats (for gut health and slow-releasing energy)

• 2 cups almond milk (or your milk of choice, a creamy base for comfort)

• 1 tbsp honey (nature’s sweetener, known to support healthy gut bacteria)

• 1/2 tsp ground cinnamon (helps to balance blood sugar and provides a warming, comforting aroma)

• 1 tbsp dried lavender (for calming and reducing stress)

• 1 tbsp chia seeds (rich in omega-3s for brain and heart health)

• 1/4 cup chopped almonds (adds texture and a source of healthy fats)

• Pinch of salt (to balance the flavors)

• Fresh fruit or berries (optional, for added color and antioxidants)

Instructions:

1. Simmer the Oats: In a medium-sized pot, bring the almond milk to a simmer. Add the rolled oats and cook for about 5 minutes, stirring occasionally until the oats are soft and creamy.

2. Infuse the Calm: As the oats cook, add in the honey, cinnamon, and dried lavender. Stir to combine, letting the warm aroma fill the kitchen. Lavender is known for its calming properties, and cinnamon helps regulate your blood sugar, ensuring stable energy.

3. Boost with Omega-3s: Stir in the chia seeds and let them hydrate, adding a boost of omega-3s that are vital for brain health, specifically your head brain.

4. Add Texture and Flavor: Once the oats are done, remove them from the heat and top with chopped almonds for a crunchy texture and a source of healthy fats. These fats are crucial for brain health and emotional regulation.

5. Optional: Top with fresh fruit or berries to add natural sweetness and antioxidants, perfect for the heart brain and stomach brain connection.

6. Serve Warm: Enjoy this warm bowl of comfort, perfect for a quiet morning or a mindful pause during your day.

Why This Recipe Supports Your 3 Brains:

• Head Brain: The cinnamon and lavender in this recipe provide calming effects that reduce anxiety and stress, helping the brain feel focused and clear. The omega-3s from chia seeds also support cognitive function and emotional regulation.

• Heart Brain: The honey, warm oats, and the act of preparing a mindful meal together activate oxytocin, the "love hormone," which promotes feelings of connection, empathy, and warmth. The act of preparing and sharing a nourishing meal with someone you care about strengthens your heart brain, building mutuality and intimacy.

• Stomach Brain: Oats are rich in soluble fiber, which supports gut health and provides a steady source of energy. By feeding your gut nourishing foods, you also help stabilize your mood and reduce inflammation, which can improve your overall emotional well-being.

Drink Pairing:

Chamomile & Lavender Tea

This calming, floral tea is the perfect complement to the warm, comforting oatmeal. Chamomile is known for its relaxing properties, while lavender adds a touch of tranquility and a hint of sweetness. Together, they create a peaceful, oxytocin-boosting experience that will help you feel connected, calm, and nourished from the inside out.

Ingredients:

• 1 chamomile tea bag

• 1-2 tsp dried lavender buds (or a lavender tea bag)

• Honey or agave syrup (optional)

Instructions:

1. Boil water and pour it over the chamomile and lavender tea bags (or dried lavender).

2. Let steep for 5-7 minutes.

3. Add honey or sweetener of your choice, if desired.

4. Sip slowly and enjoy the calm, soothing effect.

Why It Pairs Well:

Chamomile and lavender both help reduce stress and promote relaxation, which is essential for oxytocin release. The calming properties of the herbs match the soothing qualities of the oatmeal, creating a nurturing and mindful moment of connection and comfort.

Mantra Pairing:

Mantra: "I am grounded in love. I am worthy of rest and nourishment."

Music Pairing:

Music Playlist: "Gentle Mornings"

Choose soft, ambient music that promotes relaxation and mindfulness. Ideal artists for this type of mood include Brian Eno, Max Richter, or Sufjan Stevens. These kinds of artists offer melodic, peaceful music that fosters a tranquil atmosphere, perfect for savoring a meal designed to nurture the heart and soul.

Alternatively, nature sounds, like the sound of a gentle breeze or light rainfall, paired with light instrumental music, can enhance the feeling of serenity and connection, bringing you into the present moment.

Why It Pairs Well:

Soft, ambient music fosters a harmonious environment that aids in brain synchrony, promoting emotional and physical relaxation. Music with minimal, slow rhythms helps activate your parasympathetic nervous system, allowing your body to absorb the oxytocin-boosting effects of the meal and creating an overall sense of well-being and connection.

How to Further Enhance the Healing Power of Your Oxytocin System:

• Connect with Others: Prepare this meal with someone you love. The act of sharing food strengthens oxytocin release, promoting a sense of connection and trust.

• Practice Mindful Eating: Take the time to sit down and savor each bite. Notice the textures, flavors, and the warmth of the food. This mindfulness helps engage your heart brain and stomach brain, supporting a deeper sense of well-being.

• Touch and Presence: If possible, enjoy this meal with someone who can engage in gentle touch or meaningful conversation. These nonverbal cues—gazing, touching, or holding hands—activate oxytocin and help reinforce the healing bond between you.

By nourishing your three brains with food and mindful practices, you can actively engage your oxytocin system, restore balance, and heal from disruptions that might have impacted your emotional or physiological well-being. This holistic approach fosters deep connection, calm, and healing from the inside out.

Take a moment today to nurture your brain, heart, and gut with the power of love, connection, and delicious food.